I posted this quote a while back on my instagram. This is truly how I treat everyone and how I expect to be treated. Sometimes it gets me in a heap of mess, but I know I did the right thing by being honest.
I have not always been this way. I once was a liar. A habitual liar. If it got me where I wanted to be or got me what I wanted, I did it. If a lie helped someone feel better, I would tell it.
That was ten years ago. I'm no where near like this today. I can't for the life of me tell a lie. I would try then within 5 minutes tell you that I lied! No joke! I get told daily that I couldn't rob a bank!
I am an honest person. I'm not perfect by any means and that's not the point of me telling you this. What I want you to know is that being honest hurts sometimes. But I'd rather know the truth than go on with life not knowing or thinking a lie was the truth. (you follow me?)
A few weeks ago a friend asked me why I had not talked to her. I had not talked to her in a few months. (Back story: she has some home drama I was almost dragged into. I didn't want to be involved so I distanced myself.) I told her that I had just been busy with work and home life and asked how she was. Her response? "You know that ain't the truth. I know you knew that he was cheating on me and you didn't tell me. I thought we were friends."
Whoa! Y'all, that lit a fire under my ass! So I tried to sugar coat it and lie and as always, it didn't work. I let her know real quick that I was not involved in what was going on in her relationship with her husband. I would be a shoulder to lean on but she was not going to put me in the middle of something I had no clue about. By the end of the conversation she was done with me and I was done with her. She was rude and accusing me of something I didn't do. It totally caught me off guard! It ruined my whole week y'all! It tore my nerves up!
It hurt. It hurt that she and I would probably no longer be friends. We always had a good time together. But she couldn't take my honesty. She tried to turn it into something bad, but I had done nothing but tell her the truth. I guess some people can't handle the truth. That's where my quote at the top comes in. I'd rather cry about the truth than smile about a lie. I don't expect anyone to lie to me but it happens everyday. I'd rather know the truth and get it over with. If everyone in the world told the truth imagine what today's society would be like. Could we handle the truth?
Amen. The truth hurts sometimes. But it always hurts less than a lie!
ReplyDeleteThe truth is 100% better than a lie, no matter the pain!!
ReplyDeleteI used to would tell little white lies - you know, if I was running late for an event or something like that. I thought it was no biggie. Then a few years ago I had a relationship with someone who was a compulsive liar. It totally changed how I saw lieing. Now I am like you and I wouldn't tell a lie to save my life. It's always sad when a friendship ends, I feel you there.
ReplyDeleteI agree with that quote and what you wrote here. The problem is that people have different opinions of what is "the truth" and what is wrong/bad. If we all told the truth, there would still be just as much drama. People can hear something they don't want to hear, or misunderstand, or only hear part of something and then jump to conclusions.
ReplyDeleteIt is sad that something like that can come between friends...and the problem is, she is misplacing her anger. And if she doesn't want to believe you, then she's probably still believing lies from other people. All you can do is be honest, and at least you know in the end that's what you stuck with.
ReplyDeleteAgreed! She is misplacing her anger. If your friends can't tell you the truth, then why bother having friends? Don't beat yourself up, girl! Sugar coatin' gets us nowhere!
DeleteThere is nothing I appreciate more than blunt truth. Seriously! If I don't feel that a person tells me the truth and sugar coats everything, I am skeptical. I always think those are the people who say what they really think behind my back and that isn't cool. I know this causes me to distance myself from most people, but I can't help it -- I just like honesty. My favorite girl at work is the one who tells it like it is. I think you'd like her too! :-)
ReplyDeleteWe are twins. I can't tell a lie either and everyone always says Dusty you tiger mouth is gonna get in trouble one day but you know what. I don't care at least I lived my life the best way and without the bullshit.
ReplyDeleteSo sad :( Sorry sweets. You don't need her anyway. I know it hurts but ppl like that aren't worth being sad over. I love you!!! And I love your honesty!!
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